AM I ELIGIBLE TO MOVE FORWARD?

There are certain incidents in our life that can neither be forgotten nor forgiven. Especially, when they are caused by the people whom we trust the most. Whenever we say that we trust a person, we create an image at the back of our mind and start thinking whatever will the situation is; that particular person will remain loyal and honest to us. The person could be your closest friend, the person you love, your siblings, your relatives, etc. But the moment the same person breaks your trust or proved to be disloyal and dishonest, or you are being lied to the same person, the reality shook us to the core that we can never be the same person we once were. In a few cases, mistakes can be forgiven and forgotten. But if something when done by choice, it can neither be forgiven nor forgotten and keeps disturbing us on regular basis. It is engraved on our hearts and mind to the extent that no matter how many days, months, and years passed by the pain remains the same.

But what is the solution? Can we get rid of this? No, we can’t.

Will we have to bear the pain throughout our life?  No, we don’t have to. We are not born to bear the consequences occurred by the dishonesty and disloyalty of others.

Then what should we do to get rid of such toxicity and negativity which comes to our mind and starts becoming a part of our personality? However, we know that we don’t even deserve that.

The only thing to do is ACCEPTANCE. Accept the reality wholeheartedly, no matter how painful it is. Accept it and say to yourself, YES YOU ARE BEING LIED TO, REGARDLESS OF HOW UNDERSTANDING PERSON YOU WERE! YES, PEOPLE WERE DISHONEST AND DISLOYAL TO YOU! YES, YOU WERE DECEIVED AND BETRAYED BY THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE THE MOST. The moment you will start thinking this way, it will start haunting you. You would think of running away from the situation. You will want to scream and yell but you wouldn’t be able to do that. Your inner self will start cursing you. It will start holding you responsible for the whole situation which is caused by the incompetency of others. Numerous negative thoughts will come to your mind.

You will even start losing your self-confidence in you. You will start thinking that everything is ruined. No good will be done to you in the future. You will start losing the vision of being HAPPY IN YOUR LIFE. But the HOLD ON picture does not end here J only thing that can take you out of this extremely detrimental situation is “YOUR WILL POWER” You need to make your will power stronger than ever. Don’t forget if you have been given the title of ASHRAF – UL- MAKHLOOQAT, it has been given to you for a reason. It was one ASHRAF – UL- MAKHLOOQAT who put you in the situation. The other ASHRAF – UL- MAKHLOOQAT will take you out from the same. And the other one is YOU & ONLY YOU. Don’t wait for some other person to give you hand and take you out of the quagmire of toxicity and negativity. No one can do this for you. BUT ONLY YOU! Remember, you’re born to inspire people, you’re born to remind people if you’ll fall 1000 times you’ll stand up straight 1001^st times. Let the people know, if they are the ones who can bring you down, YOU will be the one who can stand strong and firm throughout your LIFE. Life is beautiful and one of the greatest blessings from Allah. For Allah’s sake don’t just don’t ruin it due to others. There are so many people out there who love you and want you to live a HAPPY and content life. Most importantly, ALLAH, HE never wants HIS people to be in a pre-judicious situation.

Think about it!